MYTH: Incompatibility is actually grounds for marriage! Your choice of a mate is no mistake!! You have unconsciously chosen a person who will trigger you in ways that best promote your personal growth and healing. With coaching, you can learn how to use this knowledge to your benefit!

MYTH: Conflict is growth trying to happen. It is not a matter of whether you will fight, it is a matter of how good you will be at it. You and your partner can expect to hit power struggles, especially during times when you are deepening the relationship (i.e. making a commitment not to see anyone else, moving in together, getting engaged, buying a new home, getting married or having a child). Coaching can assist you to move through these power struggles with grace, dignity and your respect for one another held intact.

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MYTH: Bet you got this one right! At least we hope you did!! We call this The Hollywood Syndrome because there are more unrealistic expectations around relationships (and therefore breakups) among actors and actresses than in any other group of people!!! The Imago model describes 3 stages to a relationship: Romantic Love, Power Struggle and Mature or Conscious Love. The reality is the Romantic Love stage is not meant to last and we know now that conflict is inevitable. With training/coaching you can expect to better understand Romantic Love, learn how to move through the Power Struggle more easily and utilize tools to start creating a Mature Love relationship. You will also learn ways to re-romanticize your relationship so that it feels like "the good old days" but with a deeper connection, understanding and caring.

TRUTH: Your intimate relationship is your best opportunity for personal growth and change. You have chosen just the right partner for you to achieve your greatest potential. And they have done the same. One of the biggest realization clients have when they start to work with the Imago model is this... By changing yourself in the ways that your partner is asking you to, you not only get to heal your partner and give him/her the love he/she needs, you are also able to experience incredible growth for yourself!!

TRUTH: It's okay to have differing values and interests - there is no need to clone yourself! However, it really helps a relationship grow when both partners are committed to the same relationship vision. Coaching can help you clarify that vision and guide you in ways that ensures you both get what you want and need.

Myth: You are actually 100 percent responsible... but only for your 50 percent! In order to be successful in any relationship, you must "own what is yours." This takes some soul searching and self-awareness but doing so is a win/win opportunity for both you and your partner! Acknowledging your own shortcomings and doing something about it is your job. Celebrating who you are and helping you to stretch into new beliefs and learn new, more effective ways of being in a relationship can be the job of your coach.

Myth: Believe it or not, you and your partner are more alike than maybe you are willing to admit. In Imago theory, we often share similar childhood issues with the partner we choose in adulthood. However, we may have just learned different coping mechanisms for dealing with these issues. Working with an Imago-trained Coach or attending our FREE Imago Information Evenings or Imago Connects can help you to begin to understand why you have chosen the partner you are with.

Myth: Your partner is not here to meet all of your needs. In fact, like you, their primary concern is to have their own needs met! In order to create the space for growth and love, instead of asking what your partner can do for you, ask what you can do for you partner. Then sit back and reap the rewards... to get love, you have to give love. That being said, sometimes you will need to ask for something that your partner may be resistant to give... Talk to your coach about how to make requests using Imago Dialogue or NVC communication techniques. With the right approach you can be more sure that your partner will hear what you have to say.

Myth: They say that breaking up is hard to do, but that is wrong. It's waking up that's hard to do!!! It's easy to walk away before the going gets tough... but to stay with the partner you chose, now that's the hard part. At some point we all have to wake up and examine why patterns keep reoccurring in our relationships. Exploring Imago can help you find the answers.